Betrayal

Have you ever been betrayed?

By a boyfriend? Husband? GirlFriend? Best Friend? Boss?

Colleague? Advertisement? Religion? Politics? Etc.

Most people have had the feeling of betrayal at least once in their lifetime. If you have had this happen perhaps you felt hurt, something was your fault, perhaps you got mad at that person or situation and perhaps you can't figure out any of it?

If you're like me you want to see the good in people. You do your best to practice unconditional love, right?  Now here's the piece that might be tripping you up? Not everyone is unconditional! Not even us. Not everyone looks for the good in all people. Sometimes people may unintentionally hurt you and other times it make be trickery,  manipulation with intention. Perhaps you have unintentionally hurt someone and they feel betrayed. Did you mean it?

So what is betrayal really?

If every person is said to be a mirror of ourselves then who is betraying who?

Let's learn from our mirror!

Let's say you have been hurt by someone. You are angry, frustrated and confused. Somewhere inside of you there is an acknowledging piece that you always knew this person couldn't be trusted or something just didn't feel right. Maybe you had a bad feeling but wanted to see the best in that person. Perhaps you thought there is no way a person of a certain status perhaps would ever lie, cheat or hurt you.

If you have had these intuitive feelings then the person that betrayed you, was you. You betrayed your own feelings. It was your decision to continue the relationship to the point that it did demonstrate betrayal. However, you always knew on some level, didn't you?

It's ok! Forgive yourself!

Love yourself for the person you are and step forward and accept the gifts you have.

This doesn't apply to you ? Look deep inside. Were you paying attention? 

Did you see any signs? When we raise our awareness the truth is that the signs are always present. Maybe not at first, but eventually.

Some will say "I want to be unconditionally loving". That is wonderful. It does not mean however, 

that you have to stay in situations or relationships that are hurtful, abusive or make you feel less than beautiful. It means you must release it from your life and unconditionally love them/it just the
 way they are.

One must be practical and real .

We can forgive. We can let go. We can love from afar. We can accept one just the way they are without the lies, hurt and betrayal again.

A discussion may be "How can I walk way and be at peace with what is happening in this world. I feel betrayed by our government or God. How can this happen"?

Obtain inner peace in your own life first. Find your balance and in this space you can live in Love.

When you have peace every person that you share peace with spreads to the next one.

Remember, God didn't create these things happening in our world. We create them.

You don't create war? Every time we judge, we argue, we blame, we betray there is an internal war going on. The obvious war is the one on TV that we see or read about in the newspaper.

There is a way to shift this! There is Love! 

A love greater than any human love. A love that is available with every breath.

We are all human. We all have moments of imperfection.
In God's eyes we are perfect.  Live your truth and and Live in Love!
Live in Integrity and perhaps we can stop betraying ourself!

~ Peace~
Gloria

Kindness

The simple act of kindness you would think, would be so easy!

If it was so easy then why do we not see it more often in our world?

Why can't a customer service agent give a simple smile and be helpful to all their customers?

Why don't colleagues in any profession respect each other all the time?

Why is that people who want to appear to be kind will only do so when it benefits them only to turn around and stab someone else in the back with lies and slander?

Do you take a stab at someone to build your own ego? Do you ever consider the outcome of your actions and words ? Do you attack without knowing the truth of any situation?

Why is our world in a place of unrest? When all it would take is kindness to the human race!

It is time we all take inventory! 

What can you do to raise your vibration to become the Change you want to see in this world?

Choose your words wisely!

Think before you speak ~ will you harm someone in any way by your words?

Will you judge before you know by speaking unkindly?

Inspire instead of conspire!

Kindness seems so simple doesn't it?

What will you do to bring kindness to someone today?

How will you resolve an unkind word or situation that you have created?

Watch how your life and those around you can live in less drama!

Watch how people show up who will be kind and caring too!

One simple act of kindness goes a long way!

Imagine thousands!

Change we must!

~ Gloria ~

Loving your life?

Do you truly love every aspect of your life?

Are you making the choices that will support you in all ways for your highest purpose?

How often have we looked at others thinking they have the perfect life?

What are you doing to take the steps to create yours?

What obstacles prevent you from moving forward on your path?

Make a list! Are you the main one?

What can you release to make way for new growth and opportunities?

It's up to you!

Now make the choice today to live a life you will love!

What will your first step be? 

Have a beautiful day ~ Gloria

When doorways open ~~

Let's talk about opportunities and how to get to where you want to go!

Are you seeking a new career, relationship, life? Do you see the opportunity when it knocks, do you act upon it and are you grateful?

Sometimes opportunity does not look like we expected. For example, many years ago I taught a class in a community school to lay people on massage. My intention was to build my business by educating others. When the class commenced after 3 weeks several young ladies came up to me. They wanted to know where to go to massage school. Naturally, I referred them to schools within the state. During those days we didn't have many massage schools and none in our immediate region.  In a few moments a very tall woman came over to me. She happened to be the aunt of one of the young ladies who was interested in becoming a massage therapist.  She said as she backed me into a wall "Do you understand opportunity"?  She proceeded to share that I just taught 60 people successfully and that I would teach her niece.  Now, when a 6'2" woman puts you against a wall, you pay attention!  I did not feel I was qualified to open a school however, I listened to all her input as she was a very successful entrepreneur. Within weeks I found out I could privately train individuals as in apprenticeship program and that when I was ready to open an official school it was more about the building codes than anything.  Yes, I started teaching these 3 young woman and the flow kept going for as long as I wanted it, 12 years! Boy did I build a business!

Today, I look at all the little opportunities the best I can to see where my path is leading. When life looks quiet I make sure I pay attention even more.  I might do something new just to see who I meet or where it leads, rather than staying home just wondering what is next. Is it easy? HA! Not all the time!

Take a leap of faith today, this week go do something new! See who you meet? What doorway begins to open? Will you walk through it even though it doesn't look exactly like what you expected?

If you need a job, take one! That's right! It may not be what you are dreaming of in the moment but it could lead you to that place if you take the chance and have the courage to go for it. At least you will bring in some needed money while you continue to search.

If you want a new relationship where can you find one? Sitting home crying? I don't think so. Evaluate your relationship with yourself then go show the world who you are! Volunteer somewhere to meet new people. Go somewhere you have wanted to go but waited for that perfect person to share it with. Guess what ? They may be there waiting too!

Be grateful for every opportunity, every chance meeting, every new idea! When you give gratitude you will attract more of those wonderful things you are seeking in your life!

Open a door today! Tell us where it leads you! Then go open another one and another one! 

I choose easy now!

Enjoy your new adventure today!

Peace on your journey ~ Gloria

Life Coaching Sessions

Waiting for the sign?

Do you ever get impatient waiting for the signs? Wondering why the universe hasn't dropped it in your lap yet or spoken loudly in your ear? Do you feel hopeless at times thinking the universe is conspiring to make you crazy?

You read the books on the law of attraction. You went to the workshops to self heal. You listened to audio tapes that inspire you to stay focused, think positive, live your dream. Yet something is still missing.

Waiting for the sign(s) is getting old, right? Waiting is boring and taking too long! Waiting is ridiculous you say?

Well then stop waiting! Conspire to make your day Incredible!

Pay attention to all the little signs that exist in your life right now. What are you noticing? What do you feel? What do you hear? Got something? Then act upon it!

Remember, things won't always look like you think. Don't wait for that anvil to drop on your head to shock you into noticing.  Subtle signs exist each and every day. Perhaps it is quiet in your life right now because you need it. You need to rest. You need to take time for you.

You have taken time you say? What have you done with the time? Have you dreamed your wildest dreams? Have you done something new and fun? Have you gone for a massage? Or, have you laid in bed waiting. Sat in front of the TV for hours upon hours. Complained to everyone you know that life sucks.

The choice is yours to see the sign that only YOU can make your life incredible in every way! Take an opportunity today to see it differently. Take a chance to do something different! Volunteer to help someone less fortunate. Take a look at your life and be grateful that you woke up today and you are willing to see a 'sign'.

What is your sign today? It might be patience or peace. Could it be so simple that seeing a child smile and laugh reminds you how to be happy once again? Is it the message you heard yesterday and didn't act upon because you felt it was too big to accomplish?

The miracle is waiting for you to notice, right now! 

May peace reside in your heart and happiness in your life

May you be willing to receive all the gifts waiting for you ~ now!

~ Gloria~

Spiritual Guidance Sessions

Judgement

The formal opinion of your perception of a situation, person, concept or decision.

We all judge! Yet many of speak about being non -judgemental. Is that even humanly possible?

Think about your day and how you evaluate and share your opinion about anything today. Are you judging? If you are making a comparison ? Then yes, you are.

What if we just try to see each other with loving eyes? What if we allowed others to walk their journey how they need to in their time? What if decisions that are being made that may not align with yours are seen from a new perspective? What if we just did no harm to anyone?

Take charge of your own opinions. Research the data. Ask questions. Don't throw away your power because someone else has a judgement so loud and powerful you believe it. It happens all the time. Just watch the news for a few minutes. Don't assume what you hear or see is the truth.  Everyone has a role in life, what is yours?

Judgement will always exist in some form as long as we have our opinions and make comparisons. Let's choose to make wiser choices. Let's stop to breathe a moment before evaluating and 'mouthing off'  or accusing others of what we perceive might be wrong. Let's relax into the moment and notice if our perception shifts.  We don't have to agree with everything and everyone. We should strive to see the truth and find out what is theirs, as well.

Sure there will be times your passion gets the best of you! Sure there will be times something or someone is doing something that creates harm or makes you feel bad. This may not be the best thing for your life or situation. You may have a strong opinion about it, so you express it. How do you express it is the question? Defensively? Gently?

Let's take a vow today to evaluate with a less critical eye upon first sight of a situation. Let's sit back and play witness to what are the possibilities.  Let's try to understand that there may be a greater plan playing out here that does not mean you have to be the one in control of everything. Let's make choices to be a kinder person today, a more compassionate and understanding individual.

We all have the capability of being the most amazing beings on this planet! Let's open our hearts !

Heart–Brain Interactions:

The heart and brain maintain a continuous two-way dialogue, each influencing the other's functioning. The signals the heart sends to the brain can influence perception, emotional processing and higher cognitive functions. This system and circuitry is viewed by neurocardiology researchers as a "heart brain." (Heart Math)

Think about this for a moment!  Your brain and heart are influencing your decisions.

Emotional Energetics Research:

The heart produces by far the body's most powerful rhythmic electromagnetic field, which can be detected several feet away by sensitive instruments. Research shows our heart's field changes distinctly as we experience different emotions. It is registered in people's brains around us and apparently is capable of affecting cells, water and DNA studied in vitro. Growing evidence also suggests energetic interactions involving the heart may underlie intuition and important aspects of human consciousness. (Heart Math)

How will you judge today? Perhaps with a more tender heart.

May you see the world with new eyes today and an open heart ~ Gloria Coppola

A Healing Journey

Feeling Lost?

There are always times when we might feel lost or confused about what we should be doing in our lives. Some might last longer than others and really keep us in a dark space for a long time.

Are you having challenges in your life and wondering what has gone wrong? Do you feel like nothing is working for you? Are you getting more emotional than usual or feeling depressed? Is your health bringing you down?

Often when we are not following our soul purpose SHIFT happens! What is often hard for us to see is that these moments are the times that can change our life if we listen.  It's all a choice how we are going to allow this shift to take place. We can be a victim for as long as we choose or we can start making positive changes little by little to see the gift rather than gloom and doom.

You might say it looks like a journey without direction or a destination. When in actuality it is an exploration of the limitless possibilities waiting for you.

When you have lost your site perhaps it's time to go inward. To see within. I will share a story with you about my experience of loosing site and how it was a gift.

Many years ago when I was going through my healing journey, I woke up one morning and could not see. I wasn't afraid because inside I didn't feel I was blind. I felt like my vision in the sense of how I knew it was taken away for me to see something else. So I sat and meditated for hours. Nothing but darkness.

The phone rang and a colleague who was an astrologist wanted to 'fix me'. It brought up some emotions for me and in a frustrated voice I said "I don't need fixing"! When I hung up the phone I sat for a moment upset because I wasn't broken. Then a vision appeared! I saw a house crumbling and falling apart.  Bricks laid on the ground and each one had a belief system labeled on it. As I went through the rumble in my minds eye I noticed many of the beliefs were not working for me. I tossed aside the bricks that I no longer wanted in my reality. It was then I realized my house needed fixing. I did not have enough bricks to build a solid foundation. Without a solid foundation I soon realized no matter what I tried, I would find myself taking 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Have you done that in your life? I realized I didn't really know who I was and that what I had become was a compilation of what other people expected of me in my life. I saw the phone call as a 'sign' for me to really see what was broken in my life and that her words were the catalyst for my exploration.

Here is the opportunity for me to explore. Who am I? I started thinking about myself during childhood. What made me happy? Singing, Dancing etc.  I saw myself as a very happy little girl and wanted to feel this again. I would put these bricks in my foundation. Soon I would be taking all types of dance lessons and explored chanting as a new way to use my voice. This felt good.  I continued to explore what else would make me happy. Each time something felt good it was another piece of my foundation.  This might take time as you explore. So be patient and have fun with it.

Soon there would be enough bricks with concepts, beliefs and direction that would serve me and my soul purpose. Now I get to build the walls and add more things that suited my path.  What would this look like for you?

Think about what you really want? What do you think about most of the time? The Law of Attraction gives you more of what you think about, did you know that?

So how do you find your way? Be gentle on yourself. Say a pray. Go out in nature. Do something you haven't done in years that will bring you joy. Be a child again. Re-connect with your spirituality.

Spirituality you say? Yes! I have seen a pattern for many of us that are lost. We might have left a belief system (religious upbringing) that we felt did not serve us or stifled our growth. I invite you to re-explore and find the peace and balance in the parts that did work. I invite you to open to Source (creator, God, Spirit) and ask for help and be ready to receive it.

We stay lost as long as we choose. The choice is ours!

Be thankful! Say it over and over again. Thankful for what? Well, be truthful. Surely there are things to be thankful in your life no matter how bad it feels or appears. Focus on what you can be thankful for right now.

Forgive! That's right. Forgive a person, place or situation that could be clouding your vision, holding you back and making you a grouchy old person. Forgiveness heals!

Take stock in the truth. Once we realize our part in every situation there is no place for blame. We become responsible for our life. We make choices that can create the reality you want in your life. The peace must be found within and you can make it through any challenge in life more easily. LET IT GO! Open to receive your blessings.

TODAY IS THE DAY YOU START ANEW!

It doesn't have to be perfect. It's just perfect that you started now.

Blessings on your journey ~ "May you hold yourself as gentle as you would the wings of an angel in the palm of your hand "~ Gloria Coppola

Spiritual Guidance Available through Skype or telephone

A new way can start today with Life Coaching

Creating Community

Creating Community can happen anywhere, even in a work place.  It is a place where we respect, cooperate, share, communicate effectively and learn together.

During many of the trainings and retreats I have attended in my life I had to learn how to be part of a community. Even though I came from a family of 7 and we learned how to share time, space and chores it was quite different when you were with strangers.  One must be considerate and aware while respecting the ways of others without judgement.  Learning how to communicate effectively and from your heart can change the outcome of any situation and make life more cohesive. Much is in our approach, in our voice and mannerisms. We can be in community together even with differences of ideas and opinions. Actually, that can make us grow more, learn more and see the perspective of others if we learn to listen and see from our heart.

This last weekend I was part of a Board Meeting for a non profit "Massage Without Borders", of which I am the executive director. I decided to have our meeting in a lovely location in Virginia, far away from the average stresses of the world, in a lovely rental home. Together with the Board Secretary we set out to create this 'family' style board meeting. We cooked together,we laughed together, we got to 'know' each other personally "before business".

All of this not only taught me about each individual, it showed all of us we can be personable, human, friendly and still accomplish so much professionally.

Imagine a world where we could respect each other. Imagine listening and learning from others even though our belief system may differ.  I believe for myself personally this has become easier because of the peace I have within. I've grown as an individual and found happiness in who I am. I am no longer threatened by what someone might think of me because I am different.  I can care for others whether in my classes, business , family or friends in a kind way.  I don't have to prove anything to anyone or get defensive. I believe and feel that my life path has shown me the inner strength I need to create community life no matter where I am.

It was such a great joy to hear one of our board members says she was pleased that everyone listened and valued her opinion. She didn't feel like a big corporate structure was going to knock her down for her ideas and thoughts. We supported her. We learned from her. We shared together how things could work and come to conclusions and solutions together and we laughed plenty!

Another young board member seemed surprised when I put the power in her hands to create her ideas and suggestions, to start a project that would come from her heart. If she needed guidance we would be there. If she needed help, all she has to do is ask. To watch her smile and change her posture and become "empowered" is a gift to witness.

Respect goes a long way when creating communities. Empowering individuals is necessary as everyone has a gift to share. Let us celebrate the creativity! Have faith in your community.

The elders of the board opened to new concepts and ideas that the younger ones shared, including social media ideas that may have pushed us out of our box.  We listened, we laughed, we learned. I, personally, was glad they could take on this newer technology with excitement and reach a younger community, the future of our mission. They helped other board members who lacked (or feared) some technology skills and found the time and patience to guide them through these lessons. The younger board members appreciated the respect of the elders and their strength, passion and commitment to support.

When the community has the passion to work together and loves what they are doing there is no negativity. There is Hope! There is Love! There is Balance on the journey!

Believe you can do it! Create the prosperity in your community! Value each other!  Collaborate and cooperate! The balance and harmony will flow and miracles can happen easily!

Blessings on your journey ~ Gloria

www.GloriaCoppola.com

Retreat

Hello Everyone!

I was gone for a week at Dreaming Mountain Retreat in Johnson, Vermont teaching about the healing art of Lomilomi.

Re-treat is a wonderful thing to do for yourself! It gives you time to observe life differently, dis connect from computers, TV and daily drama.

You get time to explore nature, listen to the birds, watch rainbows, hear the rain on the roof, watch shooting stars and breathe fresh air.

We had an amazing time with a fabulous group of women. There was a lovely sauna we got to use to start our day and a nearby swimming pond.

I always enjoy supporting individuals on their healing journey. As the days progress we might retreat further into our self or we might decide to jump out of our box and explore life differently. Everyone has their own unique experience!

I also enjoy hearing from individuals once they return home. It is so wonderful to see how they take their new found peace and skills into their daily life.

Have you gone on a retreat? What was your experience? Did you find a new way to enhance your life and eliminate drama and chaos?

If you don't have time to go somewhere for a retreat, take time to do short walks at a park in your area. Stop to sit and meditate or pray anywhere. Breath deeper.  Clear your mind. Journal your hearts desire. Manifest your dreams!

Blessings to you and I will continue to blog next week!

Thank you for tuning in and now I'm tuning out!

~ Gloria~

My Healing Journey

I Let Go

Worthiness

Are there times you doubt your worthiness to have or to receive?  Were you raised it is better to give than receive? Maybe someone made you feel less than, when you expressed your opinion or truth. Was there a person who tried to sway your feelings or thoughts to believe the way they do? Were you laughed at or treated unfairly because of your belief?  Is there fear of acceptance? There could be a million reasons why you don't feel worthy of something or someone in your life.

Let's take money!

Are you worthy of receiving money for what you provide as a service? Yes you are!

 Do you willing accept it with gratitude? Are you open to receiving more? What is your relationship with money? Do you give money to others easier than accepting money? Do you have struggles with bringing more money in your life? Where did you obtain your belief system about money?

Everything is about relationship and the value we put on it

Do you value yourself?

Do you value your gifts?

Do you utilize your gifts to provide a means to support yourself fruitfully?

Are you willing to see money as an exchange of energy for services provided?

Are you praying for abundance and prosperity? Is there anything holding you back from receiving it?

Now, let's look at relationships?

It's all about relationship!

Today, I met a woman in the Unity Church. She was definitely in her mid to late 60's. She was questioning whether or not she could let go of an unhealthy relationship with a friend. A book she was reading told her it was ok to do this. 

She also shared that she didn't feel loved.  She felt no one loved her.

We chatted for a few moments about how she really felt about herself in relationship? She was surprised to hear that I posed this question. She shared she never thought about that before. 

If we don't love ourself how can we expect others to love us? I suggested that perhaps there are many that love her but she is not seeing that or aware of it? She found it hard to believe anyone loved her. Soon she was realizing that self love is the most important love.  

I shared the story of cutting the AKA cords that bind us to people, feelings or situations that may no longer serve us. I explained how in hawaii I learned about this and it is ok to release and let it go. (I have learned this similar process in many indigenous cultures I have studied).

I let her know she could send forgiveness and have compassion and give thanks for the lesson. No one ever told her she could do that. She felt relieved to know it was ok to release this hurtful person from her life and send love for their healing.

If we can make it to our 60's and no one has told us we can have love or have money or anything we aspire to having in our life, how can we possibly manifest it? If those lessons were not part of our upbringing there is no comprehension of the possibilities of all that we can attract or release. We never knew the value. We never knew we were worthy and therefore it does not exist in the realm of possibilities until we are provided the lesson.

How do we create healthy relationships without an example?

Why do you attract relationships that don't work easily?

Do you value your relationship with your Creator?

Do you value your relationship with yourself?

Our mind has the power and ability to create how we experience our reality!

It is the one gift we have been given that can shift consciousness and how we feel.

Start now and feel worthy of the life you were given on this planet.

Acknowledge and accept the value of your life.

Open to receive the love, gifts and prosperity you desire.

Give gratitude for everything.

Give to another and more will come to you.

Repeat after me ~ All my desires are manifesting for me right now. ~

 Law of Attraction

We are all worthy!

Everything is already here!

"May you hold yourself as gentle as you would a feather, in the palm of your hand" ~ Gloria

How could anyone ever tell you

Trusting Yourself

Have you ever wondered if you were following the right path?
Do you feel a calling but sometimes doubt that it is real or true?
Does confusion enter your mind which might make you feel a bit crazy?
Are people telling you that you are nuts for doing what you are doing?

Did you know many great leaders, inventors and accomplished individuals felt this way? Many were told they were nuts! Einstein was told he was crazy. I was told that too :)

Parents and teachers attempt to guide us in a direction that they think and feel will provide us with the security we might need on this planet. They mean well.  However, you may feel a calling from nowhere one day.  Perhaps from childhood you just 'knew' what you should be doing. You most likely have done much self healing and attended many workshops etc., to resolve the issue of this doubt and inadequacy you might feel.

Start today "I AM ENOUGH"

Acknowledge the gifts that our creator has given to you! Acknowledge how you will use them and share them! Give thanks and show gratitude.

BELIEVE in yourself. Allow all the previous lessons in life show you that you were sent here to do great things. Free your mind of patterns and beliefs that are no longer serving you and your highest potential. STOP THE DRAMA!

Your mind is a powerful tool. It is also the gift you were given to manifest your dreams.

TRUST that this will happen. TRUST that all that you have been shown and given are  gifts and you have the choice to bring more gifts into your life. Think Positive! Feel Love!

You can't trust yourself, you say? Is it really yourself you don't trust? Examine the truth of this feeling or way of thinking. Where does it come from?

• Did someone doubt you and put you down?
• Did someone tell you that there is only one way
• Was there a controlling figure in your life constantly telling you NO
• Ask yourself "Is this true?" 

These feelings of inadequacy can come from a simple event at childhood when the clothes you put on did not match and you were scolded or told you looked ridiculous or ugly.

It is time to believe in yourself!

1. What qualities do you love about yourself?
2. What are you gifts?
3. What have you accomplished in life that makes you feel good?
4. Each day focus on something you LOVE about yourself!
5. Give thanks for all the gifts you have and all the gifts to come!
6. Release that which does not serve you. LET IT GO!
7. Trust that all is divinely being shown to you
8. Trust that you will be in the right place at the right time
9. Trust that you have everything within your power to create your reality
10. Trust that YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Live the life you were born to create! ~ Gloria

Devotion to yourself

Devotion has been described as the love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person, activity, or cause.
Are you devoted? How devoted are you to yourself? Your Life Path? Your Hearts Desire?

• Do you tend to devote to others before yourself? 
• Why do you think you do that?
•  Do you struggle with what to do next around manifesting what you desire? 
• Are you living in a state of "just enough?"
•  Are you  worthy of devoting time, enthusiasm and love to yourself? Well, sure you are! 

Live a  life of love and you will love the life you live!

~You, Yourself, as much as anyone else in the entire universe deserve your love and affection~ Buddha

May your day be filled with magnificence and joy! Devote some time to yourself today and everyday! 
Live in joy, Gloria

Truth

There is only now

"Everyone procrastinates sometimes, but 20 percent of people chronically avoid difficult tasks and deliberately look for distractions—which, unfortunately, are increasingly available. Procrastination in large part reflects our perennial struggle with self-control as well as our inability to accurately predict how we'll feel tomorrow, or the next day.

Procrastinators may say they perform better under pressure, but more often than not that's their way of justifying putting things off.
The bright side? It's possible to overcome procrastination—with effort". ~ Psychology Today

Many of us have most likely had moments when we don't feel like we want to spend time focusing on something that needs to be done in order to bring it to fruition. It could be as simple as doing our laundry and saying "oh i'll do it tomorrow". Then you wake up and realize the shirt you wanted to wear is dirty and you are rushing around to wash it and iron it. 

You created unnecessary stress in your day .

Others procrastinate and put off until the very last minute to accomplish big tasks. Were you or are you one of those people who wait to finish an assignment for school or work until the night before? "It's ok", you say to yourself, because you always get a good grade or accomplishment the task well.

Are you a procrastinator? Here are some questions to ask yourself from Mindtools.com

• Do you fill your day with low priority tasks on your To Do List
• Spending time reading emails several times without responding or deciding what to do with them
• Sitting down to start a high priority task and almost immediately finding yourself distracted or getting a cup of coffee
• Leaving an important item on your to do list even though you know it needs to get done
• Waiting for the right mood or right time to accomplish the important tasks
• Do you get bored easily? Are you disorganized? 
• Do you feel overwhelmed by tasks?

Here are some useful indicators that will help you know when you’re procrastinating:

• Filling your day with low priority tasks from your To Do List.
• Reading e-mails several times without starting work on them or deciding what you’re going to do with them.
• Sitting down to start a high-priority task, and almost immediately going off to make a cup of coffee.
• Leaving an item on your To Do list for a long time, even though you know it's important.
• Regularly saying "Yes" to unimportant tasks that others ask you to do, and filling your time with these instead of getting on with the important tasks already on your list.
• Waiting for the “right mood” or the “right time” to tackle the important task at hand.

- See more at: http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newHTE_96.htm#sthash.HzpNDUql.dpuf

When all else fails get someone to hold you accountable. A friend or a colleague.

Ask them to check in with you. 

Set your goals.  Can't decide?  Fear of doing something wrong or saying the wrong thing?

Make an action plan. How will you accomplish your tasks? 

Break down the task. Start with achieving smaller parts of it in order to bring it to fruition.

Reward yourself for accomplishing your task.

Change your perspective and see the outcome.

See yourself already in the place of your goal!

Get excited!

You CAN do it!

I will tell you a secret. I have been and sometimes can still be a procrastinator. I have to be mindful and cautious of my actions. I find when I make smaller To Do Lists I can accomplish them easily. I hold myself accountable for my actions. I don't blame others or situations. When larger projects come into my reality to accomplish I might still find myself delaying until the last moment. I know in my mind I should not do this. I find some other 'sparkle" aka thing to do that seems like more fun. Some people say it is A.D.D. 

Recently, I have become part of a group to manifest our dream. I am accountable to them and myself. I must show up. I have homework to do. Ugh homework :(

There is the trigger! I never enjoyed homework. I wanted to play. 

So how can I look at this differently with new eyes? Well, if I manifest my dream I can play more often!

There are always ways for us to find help. ASK for it! Don't be afraid. Once you recognize you have a pattern that is sabotaging your dreams you can then work on it. You can accomplish it. It will become easier. Identifying what you do will change the way you do things!

Now, GO FOR IT!

I'm excited for you! What is your dream? Share it with us! How will you get there?

~ Gloria

Creating Balance

 

Filling your day with low priority tasks from your To Do List.

Reading e-mails several times without starting work on them or deciding what you’re going to do with them.

Sitting down to start a high-priority task, and almost immediately going off to make a cup of coffee.

Leaving an item on your To Do list for a long time, even though you know it's important.

Regularly saying "Yes" to unimportant tasks that others ask you to do, and filling your time with these instead of getting on with the important tasks already on your list.

Waiting for the “right mood” or the “right time” to tackle the important task at hand.

- See more at: http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newHTE_96.htm#sthash.HzpNDUql.dpuf

Here are some useful indicators that will help you know when you’re procrastinating:

• Filling your day with low priority tasks from your To Do List.
• Reading e-mails several times without starting work on them or deciding what you’re going to do with them.
• Sitting down to start a high-priority task, and almost immediately going off to make a cup of coffee.
• Leaving an item on your To Do list for a long time, even though you know it's important.
• Regularly saying "Yes" to unimportant tasks that others ask you to do, and filling your time with these instead of getting on with the important tasks already on your list.
• Waiting for the “right mood” or the “right time” to tackle the important task at hand.

- See more at: http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newHTE_96.htm#sthash.HzpNDUql.dpuf